The brain will tell us that it is the most important organ in the body and we believe it. It is responsible for all thoughts after all, so you can expect that it will say that.
But what about the heart? Within our heart lies a mysterious feeling – we know when something is right and when something is not. Within our heart lies God’s plan for us – if we search our heart, we know we were created for a purpose, even though our brain constantly denies it and tells us that we are just born to die. Our brain invented science after all by studying the external world around us. Our brain invented most everything, in fact, our heart just tells us to live passionately – not always practical.
Our brain tells us that we are flesh and blood and the heart asks : “what about spirit? what about conscience? what about the CREATOR? what about meaning?”
Our brain retorts: “where is the proof?”
So – who should we let rule us?
Love is in the heart, logic is in the brain. Both are equally useful both can sometimes contradict each other and they often do not agree.
The Body awaits instructions: To be or not to be? Should I go or should I stay?
We use our brain to think and to hesitate and to rationalize our actions but we use our heart when we want to be brave, impulsive, passionate and take chances.
No one has ever said that it is SILLY to follow our hearts and to do something we love but our own brain will calculate for us the PRICE we must pay, the cause and effect, the consequences of our action (or sometimes inaction). There is a price for disobedience and it is often a feeling called ‘regret’ - the heart conceding that the brain was right.
I suspect that many people these days don't understand what love is supposed to be. So many people treat their relationships like a form of entertainment that should constantly stimulate or amuse them -- and when the old relationship gets boring, it's time to look for something new and exciting, just like changing the channel when you're tired of the show you're watching.
Courtship may be entertaining and exciting -- those early days of getting to know one another, discovering common interests and values, going out on dates. And of course those things may continue well after the relationship has matured. But so often, when they don't -- when the novelty of a new relationship has faded -- people start to feel like something's wrong with the relationship and it's time to move on.
Maybe we've just lost perspective, and forget that courtship is only one stage of a relationship, and that other stages will follow, and those other stages may not be a whirlwind of entertainment and excitement. Maybe our consumer-oriented culture has finally invaded and destroyed the most intimate area of our lives, and we approach love with a list of criteria and demands the same way we would approach shopping for a new car.
I don't love that way. When I love, it is with a commitment to loving and nurturing the other person in the long term, not just while they're entertaining me. The mature relationship doesn't need to be boring; there is always room for growth in relationships and more to learn about each other and greater depths of intimacy to explore.
This is how I love, and it is how I want someone to love me. Real love does not fade with fading physical beauty or become bored with the familiar. I know it is possible; I just wonder why it isn't more common. With so many of us lonely, starved for love and affection, and cynical about marriage, why haven't more people asked what we're doing wrong? Do people today really think that lasting love is a fantasy and the best we can do is momentary pleasure?
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Some call this utopia - something in the future, worth fighting for. We are not sure when but it’s going to come, the brain tells us. Keep working hard, we will reach there. IT’s near ….
I asked my heart instead, and he said utopia is already here.
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